Local Burtrum single males and females

• bradybisel
• Male, Straight
• Age: 41
• USA, Minnesota, Burtrum

Just started and thought I’d try a place where people might be more understanding and empathetic.

I feel like this used to be an easy question to answer. Now I feel like filling out profiles are daunting just because I’ve been through so much. I feel like more and more people are in the same boat though by the age I’m at. Usually by this age, everyone’s been through something or another extraordinary. In terms of disability, there was a botched intestinal surgery from an emergency surgery that I should have pursued malpractice for and didn’t, but I’ve had issues with nerves sending false signals to my brain from my stomach, often times feeling the sensation that I need to use the restroom but then realizing I actually didn’t have to, I just felt like I had to. Never had problems not knowing. To me it felt like it’s gotta be the most annoying disability because I could spend hours a day in the restroom thinking I need to go and sit and feel like that for a long time for nothing, but I realize I just need someone understanding. Nerves were damaged in the intestinal surgery which sometimes apparently happens, but how things were sewn back up was all wrong. I had corrective surgery ten years later and it was entirely redone less than a year ago, and things in that department have finally cleared up, but I still have morning bouts with it and usually get up early just in case it delays my day. I’ve since been a victim of a head on car crash with a drunk driver who hit me. Had multiple surgeries and that’s been quite an ordeal, but I’m committed to full recovery and I exercise and try to stay moving daily. This past year I spent a lot of time learning about healthier ways to eat and I do the juicing programs a lot because they they make me feel so full of energy and give me mental clarity, so I’m on a never ending journey of healthy eating that I enjoy. I love cooking for others btw. I went through a divorce last year and she moved back to Malibu with my 1 year old son. I have a lose relationship with my 7 year old son in Minnesota. So things have been different for me. I have an MBA and took my studies seriously. I’ve had some interesting jobs and my previous career was like a legal movie fighting the insurance companies who bankrupted me and did their best to squash me from challenging them, so nothings come easy. That ordeal is what ended my almost marriage to my first sons mother. I’m friends with her and we get along with all the court stuff and have flexibility in co-parenting. I did fall in love after all this drama with someone that made me feel like it was all going to come out okay, but it was just too much for her and I know she felt overwhelmed, so I don’t blame her. I’ve learned not to have expectations, because it’s those expectations that always seem to doom relationships. I just need someone as accepting as I am of others and of challenges and problems others face. Now I’m to the point where if someone hasn’t had any major ordeals in their life, I have a hard time believing they’ll be able to commit to a person who has had plenty. I don’t have rules or anything, I just have a sense of who can empathize and relate and perhaps be fine with all that life has thrown at meus and still keep a good attitude and make the best of what we have. I’m just looking for a good person.