Understanding Consent in Modern Dating
10:48 am Tuesday, 11th June, 2024
Consent is essential to the very fabric of dating, from the first chat to those exciting in-person meetups, so you gotta be aware. Ready to make sure your dating experience is enjoyable and respectful? Let’s go! 👇
Chatting online 😘
When you’re getting to know someone online, it’s all about feeling each other out – figuratively speaking, of course! 😉 Consent here means respecting boundaries and ensuring you’re both fully comfortable with the conversation. If your match isn’t ready to share personal details or wants to keep the chat light, honor that. If you’re broaching a personal topic, like deep feelings or complex dating history, ask open-ended questions: "Is it okay if I ask you about...?" or "Would you be comfortable sharing...?". 😊
Exchanging photos 📸
Photos can spice up your online chatting, but always get consent before sending or requesting them. An unexpected photo can be off-putting and make someone uncomfortable. A simple, "Do you mind if I send you a picture?" can go a long way. Also, be mindful of the types of photos you’re sharing and what they’ve agreed to share. Keep it classy (aka clothed! 😅) to start, and if you’re in doubt, let them set the tone and follow their lead. 👌
Planning to meet in person 👫
When your connection moves from online to offline, consent continues to play a critical role. Discuss and agree on the details of your meeting: the time, place, and what you’re both comfortable with. Clear communication helps build trust and ensures that both parties feel safe and excited about the meetup. Phrasing everything: "Does this place work for you?" or "Are you okay with meeting at this time?". It’s all about mutual agreement. 🤝🌟
Physical boundaries 🌷
Meeting in person brings new dynamics, especially physical contact. It’s essential to discuss and respect each other’s boundaries. If you’re unsure about physical touch, simply ask. "Can I hold your hand?" or "Is it okay if I kiss you?" can feel awkward at first, but it’s so much less awkward than accidentally overstepping boundaries. Respect and consent show that you value your date’s comfort and autonomy, and you need that at the foundation of a strong and healthy relationship. ❤️
Intimacy and beyond 🌙
If your date progresses to a more intimate level, consent becomes even more crucial. Always ensure that both of you are on the same page regarding intimacy. Clear, open communication about desires, limits, and comfort levels can make the experience enjoyable for both. Never assume, and always ask: "Are you having a good time?" or "Do you want me to…?". Remember, consent should be enthusiastic and can be withdrawn at any time, for any reason. 🤷
Why consent matters 🫶
A lot of conversations we hear about consent talk about avoiding negative experiences, but really, it’s about creating positive ones! 🤗 When both parties feel safe, respected, and heard, it enhances the connection and makes the dating experience enjoyable. Consent fosters trust, which is the foundation of any great relationship. So, be open, be clear, and always check in with your partner. You’ll find that it brings you closer together. 💖