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Topcat56 (Male) from UK, Lexden

Read all the information and you miss the person. You miss a loyal (probably naive) guy with a great (albeit wicked) SOH. Women like honesty but I am too honest most of the time, it's my curse. Do I look my age or weight? No, people guess me 2 stone lighter and 10+ years younger and my last partner was 15 years my junior because of this. Currently I have difficulties walking any great distance and with the NHS waiting list being what it is that will continue for now. At my age this probably means not working fully again. I am great face-to-face, not so good via mailmessaging and have often been told off for making too much noise and making people laugh too much at inappropriate times. Can't help it, that's who I am.

Yes, I am a smoker. Started age 11 but gave up at age 28 for 18 years. I started again for a very good reason but someday I will stop again. Just need a good, pertinent reason. I think I have finally found a good reason so this may change to 'trying to quit' shortly, lol!

If you have read this far you probably won't take exception to the next bit, lol!

Assuming I was looking to date, which is debatable but not impossible right now.

I haven't dated anyone older than myself since I was 15, probably due to the fact that people always think I am younger. This is not a hard and fast rule as such and hasn't really done me any favours relationship wise. I have always said the person is more important than the statistics but it does mean someone older than me is less likely to gain my interest to become more than a friend. Still I think I read somewhere that the more effort things require the better they turn out.

When I search I use 40-56 as an age range and I am sure some won't appreciate me expressing a preference but we all have to start somewhere.

I am friends first except under exceptional circumstances but, if I decide to look for more, will decide much sooner than women usually do. If rebuffed it has no effect on the friendship but sometimes women change their minds later. If the friendship becomes too solid I will not risk losing it just for a date, a stance that has earned me a few bad words.

Generally most of my friends are female as I connect better than with most guys. It's an important thing to remember about me as sometimes the women I have dated wish me to discontinue contact with all other women. I don't think that is right.

I have no fear of living alone for long periods and have done so 3 or 4 times now but it would be nice to have someone to share with.

I suppose most men would jump at the chance of a short but fun relationship but I am a little deeper than that. Not to say that I wouldn't necessarily but it would depend on the lady. The term used to be 'making love' and that's how I tend to regard it even now. Love is very important.

Seeking Female


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Topcat56 Personal Details
Gender Male
Age 54
Sexuality Straight
Location UK, England: Essex, Lexden
Ethnicity White / Caucasian
Build A few extra pounds
Marital Status Single